Relationships

A relationship is a two way street. It's never all your fault or the other persons. You go into the relationship together and work through it all together."

You Are the Beat of My Heart

Baby,

I can never explain the feeling I have had over this last week, it seems months, maybe it is because every moment you have been gone has been filled with memories playing over and over in my mind, beautiful memories. The fear that clenches my stomach is beyond comprehension, to live another day with out you would not be living, you are my breath, my pulse, you make me whole.

At night I am afraid to go to bed, though I am so weary from emotion. When I fall, I wake when it is still dark and try as I might to go back to sleep, I cling to my pillow and know that I must occupy my mind to keep from dying of pain. All the things I have seen, everything I have believed in, my instincts and knowledge guide me. For the first time in my life I felt like a real person, knew my life was about to change, to become normal with no more pain, and then the worst agony that I could ever imagine replaced that joy that was to be. I fill my days with anything I can possibly do, I don't stop, as though I am running from the thoughts of you trying to bring my tears. The house is immaculate and renovated, my muscles are sore from exercise, I have seen every movie currently in the cinema and been to every shop in town. But no matter what I do, you are right in front of me, everything reminds me. Romantic movies, the things we were going to buy, you are in every corner of my house. The little heart cushion in my shower to the balcony, to the street, to the stars, Baby! I am exhausted and tonight I stopped running and it caught me, the tears won't stop and I am so afraid... where are you, when are you coming home, are you coming home to me?

Sweetheart, come home to me! Please!! I beg with all I have and as I have said, promise you a lifetime of happiness and love. Come dance on the moon with me. You are all there is, I neither need nor want anything else at all. You are my heaven on earth and I need to live there, if you go ... I need to as well, I have two angels and I need to be with one of them.

I am empty; fill me with passion for life once again ... please.

Happy New Year ! Happy 2008 !

Each moment in a day has its own value.
Morning brings HOPE,
Afternoon brings FAITH,
Evening brings LOVE,
Night brings REST,
Hope you will have all of them everyday.




New Year is the time to
unfold new horizons & realize new dreams,
to rediscover the strength & faith within u,
to rejoice in simple pleasures &
gear up for a new challenges.
Wishing u a truly fulfilling 2008

Things You Can Do Right Now To Be Romantic

Make the decision to show your partner how you feel, right now! Below are 10 things you can do at this very moment to show your romantic side.


1. Send your partner a romantic e-card

2. Write 25 reasons why you love your partner and give it to your partner the next time you see them.

3.Cut out a paper heart. On the paper heart write, "Did you know... you are the owner of my heart?"

4.Leave the heart in a place you know your partner will find it.

5.Call your partner right now and ask them out on a date.

6.Leave a flower somewhere your partner will find it, with a note that says, "I love you!"

7.Have flowers or other type of gift delivered to your partner.

8.Write a love note and explain why, and when, you feel in love with your partner. Leave it in a place you know your partner will find it.

9.Create a love dedication

10.Write a love letter and have it mailed to your partner.

Ethics In Love

In today's society we hear a lot about ethics. Many professions have their own "code of ethics" in which they follow. While other, or even the same, professions are labeled as just plain unethical. In all of these professions there is a confusion as to what really is ethical and unethical behavior. In fact, every single one of us is faced with a multitude of ethical decisions every day, especially in our relationships. Just take a look at the message boards of this site. You will see an incredible disagreement as to what is right or wrong to do in a relationship.

A perfect example of this is when our advice columnist, Romantica, responded to an advice request about whether having cyber-sex with another person while in a relationship was considered cheating. When she asked for viewpoints from readers she received quite a few varying responses. Whatever your views on this are, the fact remains that there is a lot of uncertainty in society about simple definitions of right and wrong. Now, don't get me wrong. I am not going to preach to you in this article about my views on what is right and wrong. What I hope to achieve here is to give you a few tools and a little information to help you come to your own conclusions about whether something is right or wrong.

Why is this so important? Well, basically, the decisions you make now effect your entire future. Not only your future, but your partner's and your children's future also. The choices you make every single day, effect the future of everybody around you. Let's say you are at work and there is a beautiful (or handsome) co-worker flirting with you. You start having fantasies about them and thinking about them. This fantasy goes so far that you even think about them when you are in bed with your partner. Now technically you have not done anything wrong. You have not actually slept with this person and you have done nothing that can be proved in any court of law. Basically you can argue that there is nothing wrong with a little fantasy. You can even argue that it enhanced your relationship with your partner and made things more exciting. Well, let me ask you a couple of things. If it was so right, then why do you have to spend so much time telling yourself that it was right? Also, why don't you tell your partner about it? I am sure they would be thrilled to know that you have found something that makes both of your lives better! The fact of the matter is that if you would not like it if it was done to you, or if it would have a detrimental effect on your relationship if your partner found out about it, then it is wrong! It does not matter whether, in the case of cyber-affairs, it was real or not. If what you are doing fails those two questions, then it is wrong.

So, what is the big deal about all this? Basically, when you do something wrong, it is human nature to justify what you did. If you have an affair, it all of a sudden becomes your partner's fault. You find excuses for what you are doing. It doesn't even really matter what the excuses are. I am sure you can come up with a whole host of excuses for someone having an affair right off the top of your head. The fact is that you can make excuses for something to the point that you actually believe them. It is these justifications that will end up destroying your relationship.
In conclusion I will leave you with these thoughts. What is right and wrong is a personal choice. What is right for you may be wrong for your partner. Whenever you make a decision that will affect your relationship, ask yourself these two questions:

Do you have to convince yourself it is right?

Would your partner be upset if they found about it?

If it fails that test, don't do it. You will be a lot happier in the long run.

Top 10 interested sign of getting a date

Wondering if that particular someone has more than a little friendship in mind? Check out our top ten list of ways people indicate whether they are interested in you or not.

1. The way they constantly look at you.
2. They frequently call you.
3. They try to spend as much time with you as possible.
4. They ask a lot of questions about you.
5. They flirt with you.
6. They compliment you a lot.
7. They frequently try to talk to you.
8. They frequently show public displays of affection.
9. The way they talk to you.
10. They seem interested in anything and everything you have to say.

Love is.....

"Love is giving someone the ability to hurt you, but trusting them not to!"

-Tootsie Roll

The Perfect Date

Tips1

Well I would tell him that I needed him to come home from work on Friday a bit early. Then I would take him for a long romantic walk along the beach were we met (and now live). Then I would take him out for dinner and dancing. We would come home to a cool, dark house and well... never mind the rest of it!

-Shannon

Tips 2
I do my best to make it a complete secret and mystery to him. I'd plan something that he wouldn't expect for an evening out, something special that doesn't happen all the time. A hot air balloon ride, a trip to a small town an hour away that he loves to spend time in. Take him to his favorite museum then on a picnic. I wouldn't let him in on the plans at all... just tell him where to be and when, so that when he finally realizes what we're doing, it's the utmost surprise to him.

-Danielle

Tips 3
I would take my partner to a romantic candle light dinner. We would find a little secluded table in a restaurant and feed each other while listening to soft music. We would dance very slowly on a balcony, with our arms wrapped around each other. Then we would walk hand in hand through a park full of trees like lovers do, lay on the grass and watch the stars and hold each other tight, not wanting to let each other go.

-Patsy

Love Quizzes

Question	You	Partner
What was the most significant thing about your first kiss with your partner?	______________	______________
When did you know you were in love?	______________	______________
What was the most flattering thing your partner has ever said to you?	______________	______________
Did you do anything to try and "get" your partner before you were together?	______________	______________
You love it when your partner does...	______________	______________
You love it when your partner calls you...	______________	______________
The most romantic thing your partner has ever done was...	______________	______________
The most memorable moment spent with your partner was...	______________	______________
What are the three best things about your partner...	______________	______________
What is the best thing about being with your partner?	______________	______________